OAP Toolz says going through labour pains knowing her baby was dead broke her.
In an interview with Genevieve Magazine, Toolz shared her miscarriage experience for the first time since it happened in 2017. .
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“From
the point we found out something was wrong till when the process was
over was quite harrowing, but the parts that really broke me were going
through the pain of labour knowing my baby was already gone,” the
35-year-old said.
“I also had a mini-break down when I had to get
a death certificate so we could have a burial. I don’t think I’ve ever
cried so much in my life.”
A situation where the foetus dies in
the womb before it is born is called intra-uterine fetal death. In most
cases, it occurs in the third trimester and the mother would have to go
through labour to deliver it.
Toolz said she was bedridden in the
hospital for a while. Explaining that she was, “shaken, broken,
rebuilt,” Toolz said it “ultimately it strengthened my relationship with
God.”
“It made me realise how delicate life is, and as
much as we say ‘I will do this or that’ it is inevitably down to God’s
will. “In December I wrote that everyone will go through trying times,
you just have to pray for the strength to get through it. .
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That’s what God gave me – strength to get through a very horrible experience.”
Describing
her husband, Tunde Demuren, as an incredible source of support, Toolz
said: “I actually went into labour whilst I was making his breakfast. .
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I
tried to finish because he is such a big foodie, but the pain was too
much and I was bundled off in the ambulance. Maybe it was the gas and
air or temporary insanity, but I remember asking the medics to stop so
we could get some food for him. .
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They thought I was mad. We can
laugh about that now. I think this experience brought us closer, and
also made us realise how much we love each other. He made me pray, and
he didn’t give up till I had emptied my heart out.”
